Internet dating doesn’t go naturally, as everybody knows. As for the fact that not everybody finds it easy to select the appropriate candidate out of the huge amount of profiles. That’s why Flirtalemi gives free tips every two weeks. We’ll hope that finding your ‘match’ will be more easy because of this.

Love at the first message…
Just like in real life with dating sites ‘you can only make a first impression once’. It’s not always easy to be original with your first message. Some members receive a lot of reactions to their profile. It becomes difficult to react to all those reactions then. A part remains unread or unanswered. How to avoid that your first message remains unread? This month Flirtalemi gives you 8 tips for love at first message! 

1. Don’t send the same message
Some people send a whole group of potential candidates the same message. It won’t hurt to approach multiple persons, but this shouldn’t be obvious out of your message.

2. A catching topic
A catching topic is half of the job done. Pay attention to phrase a catching topic. A lot of people let the topic space empty or  just full in ‘hi’ or ‘how are you’. Many people don’t open this kind of messages. Try to give a sight in your topic space about things to come. In this way you enhance the chance that your message gets opened.

3. Tell something about yourself
It is very important to show interest in the other, but of course it shouldn´t be a one way thing. You also should tell something about yourself. In this way the other will have an idea of you, and he or she will be able to react to your message.

4.Always check your message for orthographical or grammar errors
Show what you have learned at school. Always set your orthographical and grammar on, before sending a message. A message without points, comma´s and capitals will turn many people off.

5. Refer to one´s profile
By the way of a message you naturally want to show that you are sincerely interested in someone. That´s the reason why it´s good to refer to things in one´s profile. Usually there sufficient topics to pick out of one´s profile. Also it´s not smart to ask questions about things which are clearly mentioned in one´s profile.

6. A meeting must not be scheduled at first contact
Most of the people want to know each other a little more before dating. So it is wise not to propose a date in your first message. One step at a time is the best.

7. Don´t pretend to be different than you are
It can happen to be that you don´t fit the ideal profile of someone else. Don´t pretend to be different than you are. We are all human and with that never perfect. The differences should of course not be too big. The likelyhood of getting a reaction in that case is small. 

8. Be original
Try to do something different than the standard messages. Originality is often appreciated and rewarded. This is also the same for dating sites.